The test said I was a 5w4, then a 4w5, then a 5w6, so I must be mostly 5. I hope that doesn't mean I'm too much of a pain in the ass. "The language of emotion is not their native tongue". Well, that's not good. I don't know how I feel about this test. I do tend to come off as emotionless, and that impression is indeed very wrong. It's true that I never ask anyone for help; I usually assume that no one cares to deal with my problems. I'm not great with relationships. I can talk to people pretty easily, but I'm not good at joining in on big groups of people who already know each other. When I do talk to people who I don't usually talk to or haven't spoken to in a while, I have to be a little different. I don't lie about my opinions or anything, but something is different about me. I feel like I behave differently around every different person I know. The test said that the people I have relationships with are usually lifelong friends. I don't know; I think I have a lot of relationships with people who I have no intention of keeping around forever. I can make small talk; I just don't like to.
I definitely am a thinker. I think a lot because I'm alone a lot. I'm alone all the time. If I'm not talking and no one is talking to me, I think as if I'm alone. Being a typically quiet person, that's a lot of thinking. I was talking to Luke the other day about words and things that can't be put into words. Sometimes I think so much that one of those things comes up and then everything kind of goes into a black hole because there are concepts that I just can't understand. I don't know if I think more than anyone else, but it sure seems abnormal. I know everyone's always thinking. My thinking makes me tired. It makes me want to bang my head on something. I have to read to shut myself up. I think about thinking. I notice patterns in my thinking. Thinking makes me sad. I argue with myself. I whisper "shut up" to myself so my voice can drown out my thoughts. It makes me lonely. I think so much that I forget to fall asleep.
Fear of inadequacy: true.
This test is a little too accurate. I don't like the idea that everybody can be put into a category and there's only nine. It makes people seem sort of boring. I guess I just don't like being told what I am. Are these numbers permanent? Not that any one number is better than the other (or maybe it is), but I'm wondering if you can go from one to another. And if we control which number we are.
The enneagram doesn't define who you are, Ilana. It helps you to move towards who you want to be. It is only a handy dandy tool. And all tools only respond to what we want - either consciously or unconsciously. A hammer can drive a nail or smash a board depending on how it is swung and who swings it. Are you going to build boats or houses? The tool doesn't decide that.
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